The moment that matters

Make asking for help possible.

A child says, ‘I need to tell you something, but you’re going to be angry.’ Before discussing the rule, make room to understand what happened. A useful start is: ‘Thank you for telling me. Let’s work out what needs to happen next.’

This does not promise freedom from consequences. An ordinary mistake may still need repair or a change to access. It tells the child that breaking a rule does not take away their right to help. Calm words cannot guarantee that a child will always tell you, but you can prepare your own response.

Try saying your first sentence aloud before you need it. Other caregivers can choose wording that feels natural to them, with the same promise of help.

Try the parent-response activity →

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